DanceLife Magazine
2025
When the Scores Sting but the Lessons Last Compete With Confidence
BY RHEE GOLD
We’ve all been there—standing beside a dancer or group who poured their heart into a performance, only to see them crushed by the results. It’s tough to watch, but these moments can be some of the most valuable lessons we teach. First, let them feel it. “I know this isn’t what you hoped for, and it’s okay to be disappointed.” Then, gently shift their focus. “Tell me, what did you love about your performance?” Helping them recognize their own growth—whether it’s stronger technique, more confidence, or simply the joy of dancing—reminds them that success isn’t just about scores. From there, set a goal. “What’s one thing we can work on for next time?” Maybe it’s sharper transitions, more emotion, or staying fully present in the moment. Growth is the real win.
And always remind them: One panel of judges doesn’t define their talent, and a medal doesn’t define their worth. But the way they handle disappointment? That builds character, resilience, and life lessons that last far beyond the stage.
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